Quit Trying to Achieve All Your Goals and Just Pick One

Pick One Goal

“It is not enough to be busy. So are the ants. The question is: What are we busy about?” ~ Henry David Thoreau

In last week’s blog post I spoke about how to avoid future regret with 3 simple steps. Chances are that you read that blog and hopefully you found it useful. I’m guessing however that you’ve probably not done anything differently since reading the article.

Maybe you made a start but have not followed the steps consistently each day. The reason I know this is because I am no different to you. Despite knowing that the steps will move me closer to achieving my goals, I still do not consistently take the actions I know I should.

Are you willing to put in the effort?

I am a fan of goal setting and having achievements to work towards, however like I said in last week’s article, I’m also aware of just how many of us have goals that we do not achieve. I believe this is because we are not realistic about how much effort it will take for us to accomplish our aspirations.

It’s not about what you want. It’s not even about how badly you want … Read more

Avoid Future Regrets With Three Simple Steps

Avoid Future Regrets

“When you get older, it’s not about what you did that you regret, it’s what you didn’t do.” ~ Grace Slick

Everyone I know has a list of goals and aspirations they would like to achieve. Some people have huge goals like becoming mayor of their town, whilst other have much smaller goals such as losing a few pounds. Some people have their goals in their head whilst others have them written down.

I have a number of aspirations that I would like to achieve during my lifetime and I regularly write them down.

Having goals is not uncommon, what is uncommon is people actually achieving those goals. Over the past few months it has really become apparent to me just how many of us have dreams that we in fact sabotage on a daily basis, without the conscious awareness that we are doing so.

Recently I was speaking to a close friend of mine about my desire to live in another country. Her response was “What are you doing about that because you’ve been talking about it for so long now“. In that moment it dawned on me that she was right. Moving abroad is something I … Read more

Are you ready to be liberated from your protective armour?


“You don’t have to play masculine to be a strong woman.” ~ Mary Elizabeth Winstead

If you receive my weekly newsletter, you will know that I am organising an event called Eat, Pamper, Love that will happen on September 6th in London.

Recently, when sharing about the event with a friend, he asked me why I was doing it.

I gave him a response that went something like:

I think it’s really important for women to take care of themselves and their well being and too many women are at the bottom of their “to do” list. I want to create a space that allows women to take time out for themselves without feeling guilty.

He then asked me why I cared about women taking time out for themselves and why I cared enough to create Eat, Pamper, Love. I gave him a similar response to which he told me that he was not convinced and that he thought there was a deeper reason for me that I had not yet connected with.

We chatted for a few more minutes but it really wasn’t clear to me why else I wanted to create a relaxation and pampering event for women … Read more

Loving You is Easy ‘Cause You’re Beautiful

Loving You is Easy

“Self-love has very little to do with how you feel about your outer self. It’s about accepting all of yourself.” ~ Tyra Banks

Actually, is it that easy? Loving yourself I mean.

And just how beautiful do you really think you are?

The title of this blog post is taken from the lyrics of a seventies hit by Minnie Riperton called “Lovin’ You“. Recently whilst lying on a sun lounger on holiday, reflecting on the previous few weeks, the song popped into my head which led on to some more in depth reflection.

I am currently coaching on a three month personal development programme where I am coaching five people. Although I am a coach, I am also required to participate in the course as if I am also a coachee. As a result, I have had several personal revelations.

It was one of these revelations that I was pondering when the lyrics of Lovin’ You came to mind.

Accepting compliments and being with acknowledgement

I have always found it incredibly difficult to receive compliments and acknowledgements, and at the end of one of the sessions on the programme, I raised a concern about a breakdown in communication … Read more

Take Time to Relax and Disconnect

Take Time to Relax and Disconnect

“Together with a culture of work, there must be a culture of leisure as gratification. To put it another way: people who work must take the time to relax, to be with their families, to enjoy themselves, read, listen to music, play a sport.” ~ Pope Francis

At the time of writing this, I am five days into an eight day holiday. I spent three days in my home away from home, also known as the island of Tenerife and I am now on the neighbouring island of Gran Canaria.

I made a vow to myself before setting off on my summer holiday that I would have limited access to technology. I wanted to spend time reading, writing and relaxing rather than being at the mercy of emails and social media updates.

In today’s technology driven world it can be a challenge to completely disconnect. Many of us have become reliant on technology for every day matters and in a lot of instances it saves time and money.

Without the luxury of Wifi, it would cost me a small fortune to keep in touch with loved ones back home in the UK. I would also be unable to maintain my … Read more



Sweet & Simple-ice-cream

“My love for ice cream emerged at an early age – and has never left!” ~ Ginger Rogers

It is no coincidence that I’m currently sunning myself in the Canary Islands and I’ve chosen ice cream as this week’s sweet and simple pleasure.

Since almost eliminating dairy from my diet, ice cream is something I now only have occasionally. I have always loved ice cream and it’s one of the foods I’ve missed the most since reducing dairy in my diet. Luckily I have found a dairy-free alternative that tastes good, and enjoy that from time to time.

When I am on holiday however, I break my diet rules and I allow myself to indulge in ice cream, as well as other sweet treats.

Mint Choc Chip is my favourite followed closely by Baileys and Rum and Raisin. I almost always opt for a cone but very now and again it’s nice to dive into a couple of scoops without.

Ice cream always invokes memories of my childhood. Playing outdoors with my cousins and friends, waiting in anticipation for the ice-cream van to come around;  hoping and praying my grandmother would allow us to have one. My cousins and Read more