“Make New Year’s goals. Dig within, and discover what you would like to have happen in your life this year. This helps you do your part. It is an affirmation that you’re interested in fully living life in the year to come.” ~ Melody Beattie
First off let me wish you the happiest of New Years!
I hope you enjoyed your NYE celebrations and you are not feeling too fragile today.
Over the past few years I’ve had a very low key NYE night, spent with family watching the Jools Holland NYE special, listening to great artists perform; a calm, peaceful and loving start to the year.
Despite my simple celebrations to mark the start of the new year, I’ve been putting in a lot of work over the past few weeks to prepare for this new chapter.
I have spent time reflecting on 2014 and planning for 2015 using a combination of the Unravelling the Year Ahead workbook and Find your Word email class by Susannah Conway and the Becoming Who You Are Advent Calendar email prompts.
I’ve also created my 2015 vision board (you can see a glimpse on Instagram – oh yeah did I mention that I’m now on Insta? Be sure to follow) and outlined the goals I want to achieve.
In this post I wanted to share some of my reflections from 2014 as well as some of my plans/intentions for 2015 straight out of my journal, to encourage you to take some time to do the same. It’s not to late and it’s well worth doing.
What did you discover about yourself in 2014?
I discovered how much I enjoy my own space and spending time on my own. I discovered how fearful I am and how much my life choices have been dictated or influenced by the views and opinions of others.
*This really slapped me in the face this year!
What did you let go of in 2014?
I let go of the need to please other people. I let go of expectations and the need to know the outcome of everything. I let of the pressure to be on every social media platform to promote LL Coaching and I let go of following the advice of so-called “gurus” and “experts” whose message felt misaligned with who I am.
What surprised you in 2014?
How much people dislike or react to you transforming or going against the social norm or what is expected.
Describe 2014 in 3 words:
Patience, authentic and release (letting go – but that’s 2 words)
If 2014 was the title of a book or the name of a film, what would it be called?
Let Go and Trust the Process
If 2014 was a movie genre, music genre or colour, what would it be?
I can’t think of a genre but I can think of a song. I feel Rudimental’s song featuring Emeli Sande, Free, really sums up the transformational journey I have embarked on. The words don’t necessarily apply to me (I do Yoga and Pilates) but the essence of the song really fits. I am becoming freer as a person and more accepting of my true self, wishes and desires.
Actually if 2014 was a film genre, I feel like it would be a black and white film – simple and well meaning. No hidden messages, no fancy effects.
Think back to where you were in early December 2013. What has shifted for you since then?
I think I have taken much more responsible for my health. I have learnt so much about health and well-being and I’m taking steps to move toward optimal health and well-being (which are two of my core values).
Similarly my peace of mind has improved dramatically. I hardly feel guilty for taking time out for myself to just be. I am a lot more confident about what I need and now I actually put my own needs and wants first. Guilt is definitely a less frequent feeling. I am also making choices based on me rather than on what I think others may say or think.
What were some of your biggest lessons and a-ha moments from 2014? What will you be taking away from the last 11 months into the year ahead?
My biggest realisation is that I still lack clarity around what it is I want to do through my business. I know that I want to write and inspire and motivate people through my writing, it’s how I generate a passive income that eludes me.
I have learned to give myself the permission to take the time I need without guilt.
I was recently thinking that maybe I should make more of an effort to go out and meet people – then after a family relative’s funeral I began to question it more. But yesterday I thought the only thing that helps me get real clarity is having time and space to myself to think and reflect. To achieve what I want I need to get clarity. I now see this time truly as hibernation time to plan for the year(s) ahead.
The lesson I have learnt that I will be taking into 2015 is to trust myself and my instincts. To believe in myself and trust I have everything I need without always looking outside of myself for permission, approval, validation or authority.
What do you feel you have gained in 2014? Has this added to your life, or do you feel like it’s excess baggage?
Clarity is definitely the biggest thing I have gained in 2014. Clarity about the direction I want to take with LL Coaching. Clarity about what has been holding me back and what I no long enjoy.
I have also gained self-confidence and self-belief and I feel that I am finally discovering my authentic voice. I have gained the confidence to say no, trust my instincts and do what feels right to me. As a result I have also gained a greater sense of freedom.
What 3 qualities or traits do you most want to embody during 2015? What is it about these qualities or traits that feels important to you?
Patience, compassion and gratitude.
Patience is a trait I’ve been wanting to improve for a while. I get frustrated when things don’t happen within my timing. Patience will remind me to trust the process and that ultimately nature is in control.
I just think that compassion is a great trait to have. As frustrated as I can get about people, everyone is simply doing the best they can and everyone is dealing with something and it will remind me of that.
Gratitude is vital. Things could be so much worse so I think it’s important to be grateful and conscious of what I do have rather than focusing on what I feel is missing. Gratitude enables me to be happy regardless of external factors.
What dreams would you like to nurture in the new year?
- Becoming financially free
- Becoming a successful, inspiring writer
- Living in a hot climate such as Tenerife
What area(s) of your life is/are asking to be supported in 2015?
The first area is definitely my health and well being. I want to be fit, healthy, flexible and toned. The second area is my creativity – around my writing, photography and candles – I want to develop and expand my creativity. The other area is my finance. I want to be financially free.
What does your heart need?
How cliché but it needs love – from me. It also need to be listened to and feel heard. It also needs the freedom to feel however it feels and the confidence that it will be safe and taken care of. It needs to be held and supported.
What three words embody the kind of relationship you want to have with yourself in 2015?
Patience (trust the process), belief/trust (myself) and fun (not take myself or life too seriously)
List 3 things you will aim to do each morning to start your day:
- Eat breakfast
- Listen to personal development
List 3 places you would like to visit in 2015:
*Strangely, other than Morocco these are places I’ve already visited…
What’s your word for 2015?
If you lived and breathed your Word every day in 2015, what would be different for you?
I would be going way beyond my comfort zone, taking risks and really seeing what’s possible for me. I would be travelling frequently and exploring all aspects of life. Really digging and seeing what life is truly about.
How do you want to feel in 2015?
So there you have it, more than a glimpse into my 2014 reflections and 2015 intentions. 2014 was definitely a journey and one where I learned many lessons and made plenty of discoveries.
I’m looking forward to the year ahead – challenging and pushing myself beyond my comfort zone. I want to continue to grow and explore whilst moving towards my big goals for the year. I think this is the most work I’ve put into a new year in advance for a very long time, so I’m really interested to see where I’ll be this time next year…
Cheers to a fantastic, happy and fulfilling 2015!
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It would be great to hear about your lessons learned from 2014 and intentions for the year ahead. Please share in the comments below.
Oh and before I forget, if January is typically a lackluster time of the year due to empty bank accounts, crap weather and abandoned resolutions, remember to sign up for the Banish the January Blues e-series starting on Sunday, 4th January.