Category Archives: Confidence

Tips and advice on increasing your courage and confidence

Are you you discounting your gifts and talents?

are you discounting your gifts and talents-

“Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.”

OMG! Your hair looks so good. 

That was the start of my Monday morning this week.

No, I hadn’t perfected my twist out; I had noticed one of my colleagues rocking her hair in it’s natural state with mini twists.

I’ve worked with her for almost six years and the entire time she’s always worn weave or hair extensions.

When I started working with her, my hair was natural but  I always wore my hair straight. Two years years ago however, I stopped straightening my hair and began wearing it in its natural curly state.

As long as I’ve worked with her, my colleague has always commented on my hair and we’re always complementing each other on our outfit choice for the day.

She would always say that she’d love to “go natural” but that her African hair was “too hard and kinky”. I would always encourage her and say that was just what she had been conditioned to think.

Anyway, back to Monday morning.

I asked my colleague what inspired her choice … Read more

Are you ready to be liberated from your protective armour?


“You don’t have to play masculine to be a strong woman.” ~ Mary Elizabeth Winstead

If you receive my weekly newsletter, you will know that I am organising an event called Eat, Pamper, Love that will happen on September 6th in London.

Recently, when sharing about the event with a friend, he asked me why I was doing it.

I gave him a response that went something like:

I think it’s really important for women to take care of themselves and their well being and too many women are at the bottom of their “to do” list. I want to create a space that allows women to take time out for themselves without feeling guilty.

He then asked me why I cared about women taking time out for themselves and why I cared enough to create Eat, Pamper, Love. I gave him a similar response to which he told me that he was not convinced and that he thought there was a deeper reason for me that I had not yet connected with.

We chatted for a few more minutes but it really wasn’t clear to me why else I wanted to create a relaxation and pampering event for women … Read more

Loving You is Easy ‘Cause You’re Beautiful

Loving You is Easy

“Self-love has very little to do with how you feel about your outer self. It’s about accepting all of yourself.” ~ Tyra Banks

Actually, is it that easy? Loving yourself I mean.

And just how beautiful do you really think you are?

The title of this blog post is taken from the lyrics of a seventies hit by Minnie Riperton called “Lovin’ You“. Recently whilst lying on a sun lounger on holiday, reflecting on the previous few weeks, the song popped into my head which led on to some more in depth reflection.

I am currently coaching on a three month personal development programme where I am coaching five people. Although I am a coach, I am also required to participate in the course as if I am also a coachee. As a result, I have had several personal revelations.

It was one of these revelations that I was pondering when the lyrics of Lovin’ You came to mind.

Accepting compliments and being with acknowledgement

I have always found it incredibly difficult to receive compliments and acknowledgements, and at the end of one of the sessions on the programme, I raised a concern about a breakdown in communication … Read more

Be Fearless and Trust Yourself

Be Fearless and Trust Yourself

“The truth is: Belonging starts with self-acceptance. Your level of belonging, in fact, can never be greater than your level of self-acceptance, because believing that you’re enough is what gives you the courage to be authentic, vulnerable and imperfect.” ~ Brene Brown

Sometimes in life you have to throw caution to the wind and go with the flow. You have to throw out everything you know to do or have been told or taught to do and follow your instincts.

Normally when I start writing a blog post I have an idea for the title and the content. Today however I am writing free flow to see where this one takes me. I do have an idea about what I want to say, but I do not have a succinct title to focus me.

Until a few months ago, I would spontaneously write each blog post. This meant I had no idea what topic I was going to write about until I sat down to write it. Then I started reading about how to effectively run a successful blog and lots of people recommend having a schedule where you plan in advance what to write each week. So, being the … Read more

3 limiting beliefs about failure that could be holding you back

3 failure limiting beliefs

“Failure is a detour, not a dead-end street.” ~ Zig Ziglar


The word alone is enough to put the fear of God into people. No-one wants to fail. No-one wants to be considered a failure.

Failure is one of the biggest fears that holds people back and prevents them from achieving their goals and aspirations. I too am guilty of letting the fear of failure hold me back.

Getting to the root of the fear of failure

The fear of failure is rooted in limiting beliefs. Limiting beliefs are thoughts about yourself, others or the world around you that prevent you from being your best, and living your best life. They normally exist at a sub-conscious level so more often than not, you are not even aware that they exist.

Limiting beliefs can cause feelings of frustration, procrastination, jealousy and resentment, to name just a few, because they can hold you back from achieving your goals and aspirations. They can also cause low self-esteem and lack of confidence, and often you are not even aware of where the feelings stem from.

I’ve recently reached a milestone in my business which means it’s time to step up. It’s time for … Read more

Does changing your views make you a hypocrite?


When I was in my teens and early twenties, I held strong views about pretty much everything. The way the world worked, how people should and shouldn’t behave, politics, you name it, I probably had a view on it. I also had friends who were even more committed to their view of the world than I was.

My views were shaped by my parents, grandparents, cultural background, society, my peers, colleagues and let’s not forget the good old media!

I know what I know, and I believe it to be true

At the time, I was so sure my outlook on life would always be that way. Although I was generally open-minded about most things, when I felt strongly about something, there was no budging me. One of the traits of being a Taurus I suppose – another influence on my views.

However, as I began delving into the personal development world, I started to question some of the views that I’d been taught, inherited and adopted. This was an extremely uneasy place to be. Suddenly things that I’d believed or supported vehemently, became less significant or I questioned if I still believed in at all.

One of these things … Read more