You would think that it would be the most normal thing in the world to act lovingly towards ourselves. After all, most of us have no difficulty acting lovingly towards others.
Granted, the way in which we express our love towards others will be different for all of us, however, the bottom line is that we most of us find it far easier and more natural to share our love with others.
Why is this? Why is it so difficult to put yourself first?
In this post, I will share 5 effective steps to practice self-love.
Your default response to the people in your life will determine your ability to practice self-love
Many of us are not even consciously aware that we do not act lovingly towards ourselves. In fact, it is not something that we even think about.
How often do you ask yourself how am I feeling?
I’m guessing not very often.
Yet, how often will you think of a friend or family member and say to yourself, “I must check in with so and so to see how they’re doing”?
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“Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.”
OMG! Your hair looks so good.
That was the start of my Monday morning this week.
No, I hadn’t perfected my twist out; I had noticed one of my colleagues rocking her hair in it’s natural state with mini twists.
I’ve worked with her for almost six years and the entire time she’s always worn weave or hair extensions.
When I started working with her, my hair was natural but I always wore my hair straight. Two years years ago however, I stopped straightening my hair and began wearing it in its natural curly state.
As long as I’ve worked with her, my colleague has always commented on my hair and we’re always complementing each other on our outfit choice for the day.
She would always say that she’d love to “go natural” but that her African hair was “too hard and kinky”. I would always encourage her and say that was just what she had been conditioned to think.
Anyway, back to Monday morning.
I asked my colleague what inspired her choice … Read more
“I can be a better me than anyone can.” – Diana Ross
Over the past few months I’ve been participating in writing courses with Lisa Lister, GG Renee and Susannah Conway.
The focus of all the courses is to become a more authentic writer.
I’ve been aware for a long time that my writing does not accurately reflect my personality. My authentic voice has been stifled for a long time and I wanted a way to access it and sound more like me.
Finally I have begun to shed many of the layers that have been hiding my authentic voice and I’ve started experimenting with my writing.
I’m now writing on my personal blog, which I created in November but had only written 2 posts for.
Writing in my authentic voice makes me feel vulnerable and it’s scary. However, it’s something I have a deep urge to do.
I’ve been thinking about all the ways we limit ourselves and suppress who we truly are.
If you’re anything like me, you just want to be yourself, but struggle daily to meet the expectations and demands of the world around you.
So to kick-start June, I wanted to share … Read more
“Most folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be.” – Abraham Lincoln
Smiling faces and upbeat conversations.
A world full of creativity and authentic people.
Everyone leaping out of bed each day and truly celebrating a new day.
People looking forward to the day ahead because they’re being a contribution, using their skills and talents in a way they enjoy whilst making a difference.
This is how I imagine the world if everyone loved life.
Can you imagine a life where everyone was happy and fulfilled?
There are two ways to view life
I know everything in life has a yin and a yang; two sides to everything and therefore two ways of looking at every situation.
I understand this, however I cannot help but wonder how much more enjoyable life would be if there were more positive people in the world. If more people were optimistic and focused on the brighter side of life.
If people were driven by their dreams rather than their fears.
There is no doubt that in life shit will always happen. We will lose people we love, we will fail at things we attempt, and sometimes we’ll just feel tired, … Read more
“I think happiness is what makes you pretty. Period. Happy people are beautiful. They become like a mirror and they reflect that happiness.” – Drew Barrymore
As both my birthday, and May Day are this week, I thought the theme for May’s motivational quotes should be about celebrating life.
It’s not always easy to look on the brighter side of life, with all your daily demands, challenges and responsibilities so here are 31 quotes to remind you to celebrate each day, no matter what else is going on.
1. “Life is what you celebrate. All of it. Even its end.” – Joanne Harris
2. “The best way to prepare for life is to begin to live.” – Elbert Hubbard
3. “Normal day, let me be aware of the treasure you are. Let me learn from you, love you, bless you before you depart. Let me not pass you by in quest of some rare and perfect tomorrow. Let me hold you while I may, for it may not always be so. One day I shall dig my nails into the earth, or bury my face in the pillow, or stretch myself taut, or raise my hands to the sky and … Read more
“Let us never know what old age is. Let us know the happiness time brings, not count the years.” ~ Ausonius
I thought I would have been settled down by now…
I should be settled down by now.
If I was more committed I might have been financially free by now.
If I was more organised I could have been location independent by now.
I probably should have moved house by now.
These are just a handful of thoughts that have been swirling through my mind over the past few weeks.
I turn 35 in ten days and over the last year or so I have become increasingly aware that 35 is a milestone number for many women, particularly women who have not yet had children.
Initially I was excited about my birthday, as I am every year. I planned to be away somewhere nice or at least do something significant to mark the day.
35 did feel like a milestone to me, but at first it was a positive one. Gradually however I started to feel crap about my upcoming birthday.
I started thinking about all the things I say year after year that I want to achieve, yet … Read more