“The truth is: Belonging starts with self-acceptance. Your level of belonging, in fact, can never be greater than your level of self-acceptance, because believing that you’re enough is what gives you the courage to be authentic, vulnerable and imperfect.” ~ Brene Brown
Sometimes in life you have to throw caution to the wind and go with the flow. You have to throw out everything you know to do or have been told or taught to do and follow your instincts.
Normally when I start writing a blog post I have an idea for the title and the content. Today however I am writing free flow to see where this one takes me. I do have an idea about what I want to say, but I do not have a succinct title to focus me.
Until a few months ago, I would spontaneously write each blog post. This meant I had no idea what topic I was going to write about until I sat down to write it. Then I started reading about how to effectively run a successful blog and lots of people recommend having a schedule where you plan in advance what to write each week. So, being the perfectionist that I often am, and keen to blog the “right” way, I created a plan of topics I would write about each week.
I have been doing this for approximately two months now and although you probably haven’t noticed any difference, for me it’s been a huge shift. On one hand it removes the slight underlying anxiety of coming up with a new topic to write about each week that you will find both useful and interesting. On the other hand I feel that it has stifled the openness in my writing and I have felt restricted.
Look out for the signs
Life is a funny old thing. It sends us signals all the time, we are just often too distracted to notice them. I have been getting signs over the past few weeks to give up following the prescription of other people and really trust myself. I want to be more honest and authentic in my writing and also with myself. The whole purpose behind what I do is to empower you to be fearless, authentic and unapologetic, yet I am only half living that myself.
Of course it is really valuable to get advice and training from others, as well as inspiration and motivation, however there comes a point that you have to tap into your own voice and intuition and follow your own path.
Over this past year I have been splitting my time between so many activities because I thought I should be doing them all. In fact all that did was distract me as I was never fully focused on one thing. A lot of what I was doing didn’t even feel like a good fit for me but I was still forcing myself to do it as I thought I had no choice if I really wanted to make a difference to women like you.
The choice is yours
Too often in life we feel like we don’t have a choice. We see examples of other people living the life we want and we feel we have to follow their example. Alternatively, we have people we love and trust telling us what we should be doing with our lives and we feel we have no choice but to take their advice.
The truth is we all have a choice but most of us are scared to go against the masses and to take responsibility for our choices should they go “wrong”. To live a happy powerful life, we have to take risks. In the Facebook community (which is free for you to join), one of the challenges that was recently mentioned was the fear of failure. My response was that scientists fail all the time, and if they gave up or didn’t even get started because they were scared of failing, just imagine how un-evolved the human race would be.
So going forward, I am going to follow my instincts and focus on my writing and develop a writing routine that works for me. My focus is on producing blog posts that inspire and motivate you to take action in your life to create a career and life you love, and above all be truly happy.
There are so many things in our life we put aside as unachievable or that we dismiss due to the fear of what others will say or think. We each have ONE life to live and we were each given the responsibility of our own life so you have the right to do with it what you choose. If you want to sing, find a way to sing. If you want to write, find a way to write and if like me you want to travel, find a way to travel.
This is something I will be working on over the next few months; focusing on a plan to combine travel with generating a significant income and providing you with valuable products and services. I will keep you posted on my progress and let you know where I get challenged and where I have breakthroughs.
I used to put extreme pressure on myself as a coach. Until recently I felt that being a coach meant I had all the answers and I could only write about what was going well in my life. However, I now realise that there is also an opportunity to inspire and motivate you by being vulnerable and sharing where I get stuck.
Feel the fear and do it anyway
Am I nervous about sharing more with you? Absolutely. I am generally a private person so I have also struggled to maintain a balance between sharing about myself whilst still feeling “safe”. I recognise this is just another way of staying in my comfort zone and means I am possibly not inspiring you as much as I could be. So I’m feeling the fear and doing it anyway, which will be the theme for the rest of the year. Being fearless, authentic and unapologetic.
The purpose of this post was to say that you don’t have to be perfect to do anything in this life. In fact aiming for perfection often stops you from achieving your goal because there is no such thing as perfect, therefore you will never be satisfied.
I also wrote this post to encourage you to trust your instincts and not be distracted by people around you that appear to have it all together. Remember, all that glitters is not gold and people sometimes only share with you what they want you to know. People also
share impose their fears on you so ensure that any choices you make are your own and are not based on someone else’s fear.
I know this post is slightly different to my usual posts, but I hope you have found it inspiring and you are motivated to take action in your own life. Let me know.
Sharing is Caring
What goal have you been putting off in your life because of fear?
What would be possible in your life if you were being fearless, authentic and unapologetic?